Strong Women We Are Not Because We Are All Women Unique

 “Screw writing “strong” women. Write interesting women. Write well-rounded women. Write complicated women. Write a woman who kicks ass, write a woman who cowers in a corner. Write a woman who’s desperate for a husband. Write a woman who doesn’t need a man. Write women who cry, women who rant, women who are shy, women who don’t take no shit, women who need validation and women who don’t care what anybody thinks. THEY ARE ALL OKAY, and all those things could exist in THE SAME WOMAN. Women shouldn’t be valued because we are strong, or kick-ass, but because we are people. So don’t focus on writing characters who are strong. Write characters who are people.”
—      Words of great wisdom on strong female characters~ by MadLori

I found this post/quote on Tumblr recently and it caught my attention because sometimes we me write women as these one dimensional nitwits.  I’m guilty of that as well.  Partly because, honestly, I am a nitwit half the time.  Just because they are strong, doesn’t mean they aren’t nitwits.  But what I’m getting at is, every woman is different.  Really just get into the character of the woman.  So what if she doesn’t fit the ‘stereotype’?  Does that make her boring?  Hell no!

We need to just write characters.  So, my gals are all watering pots.  At least I have one that manages/owns a bookstore.  My other gal is a photo journalist. (no one has heard of her yet because well, heck, her story is only one page.) Yeah, my gals are far from strong, but I’m not a strong girl.  I need a guy around. Or parents.  Or someone to guide me to some degree. But, I’m okay with that, and my gals should be as well.  I think the best course of action is to make my heroines interesting.

I think the same should be said of guys.  They don’t always have to be tall, dark, and handsome.  They DO NOT need to be broad shouldered and narrow waisted.  God, I am so sick of that cliched description.  They don’t all need to be moody and quiet and super secretive, do they?

Well, I just think this is a great inspirational quote.

Writing on



2 thoughts on “Strong Women We Are Not Because We Are All Women Unique

  1. That was a great quote and she might name herself MadLori, but she’s far from mad. In life, we like to group people in their little boxes for some reason. The problem is that real people wander around from box to box by whim. Literary characters are more logical 🙂

    • It is a great quite and I totally agree that she is far from mad. I think we have to just pay attention to the fact that real people do fit in a bunch of boxes, not just one. Thank you so much for your comment. I have been dying to share this quote with everyone.

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